Friday, February 6, 2009

I think I hurt his feelings..

Late last week Travis couldn't contain it anymore and spilled the beans on a Valentine gift he'd been planning. Turns out he had scheduled us for a couples massage on V day complete with our own private suite, Champagne and Chocolate Covered Strawberries!! Isn't that sweet!! He even had child care already arranged. I was super stoked and couldn't wait..

Then we did our taxes.....

Blech! I hate money! We didn't get what we had hoped for and after taking care of the things we needed to there is next to nothing left...

I was thinking about how much I wanted to do the massage but that could I really justify spending that kind of money with the way things are right now.. How would I feel if went and spent $200+ on a massage only to turn around and one of us get laid off next week..

So I talked with him about it last night and tried very nicely to talk him out of it. It's hard because I don't want to discourage him from doing nice things like that but I also don't want to do something we can't really afford.. So I told him all the other things we could do with that money and how as much as I want to I don't think we should do it.. He seemed a little perturbed about it but agreed. So I called and was *luckily* able to cancel it. Turns out it was non-refundable and they already had our debit card info so I thought we were screwed but the lady was really nice about it and said that they had a waiting list and since we gave them so much notice she wasn't going to charge us.. I called and let him know I was able to cancel it and he said "OK, thanks for shitting on my gift" Sigh, he said he was kidding but I don't think he was.. However, if he wasn't talking shit about something and giving me a hard time then I would have been worried.

Do you think I should have just kept quiet and gone ahead with it, am I wrong for telling him? So many times I have gotten ourselves in trouble by not saying no to things he wants to do when I know we shouldn't. I'm trying to turn a new leaf!

Besides, I have two free movie passes from work and a gift card to Applebee's leftover from Christmas, that sounds like a great V day and it's FREE!! He seems over it now but I feel bad for doing it....

HEY IT'S FRIDAY!!!!! And the boss is gone till Tuesday! I'm finally getting that break!


Jennifer said...

Oh, poor guy. He needs to realize what a great woman you are to be so sensible about your Valentine's gift! And it's not like you guys are just gonna be sitting @ home, right?

He'll get over it...he should just think "If she's happy, I'm happy". His life would be much easier!

Anonymous said...

Oh man! What a tough situation! Practical vs. Pride
If you all use the free movie passes and applebees cert. than he will see it as your gift to him and he still has nothing for you. Is there any way you can get that to him with out him knowing it was yours? Did that make sense?
oh hell.. just give him a lil reward and he will forget all about it! Works every time! LOL

Erika said...

i think tht u made a wise decision!